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Your Relationships Have Been Defiled

relationshipsRelationships matter, a lot. We are formed by relationships with other people: parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors, spouses, children, business associates, and more. The impact of relationships in our lives is profound.

But there is a factor in most of our relationships that sullies them – that warps and dirties them: the peremptory intrusion by enforcers and mediators.

The most vulgar images we have of this are the prima nocte stories – the ruler’s right of the first night with any bride – as seen in Braveheart and other pieces of fiction. (There is little or no evidence that such things ever really happened in the West.)

On a less vulgar and far more widespread scale, however, violations of our relationships are not fiction; they are all too real.

Who do you think has a right to take over your relationships with your children? What about your relationships with your spouse?

In fact, your government claims precisely those rights. They have forcibly set themselves as the arbiter of your marriage; they have the right to steal your children and to force you to do business (or not do business) with whomever they specify.

This may not be as horrific as prima nocte, but it functions on precisely the same principles of dominance and force. The claim of the intruders that “We’re doing this for your own good” in no way changes the fact that they are taking over your relationships by force.

Familiarity Breeds Slavery

Before I get to the heart of this issue, I should probably devote a section to the internal issues that it triggers.

It’s crazy to imagine that outsiders have any right to control our relationships with our families, yet that is precisely what is done to us. The reason we allow this is familiarity. Once people see abuse as normal, their examination of it ceases. Everyone around them accepts the crime, so they do too.

Harriet Tubman, who escaped slavery then made dozens of trips back into slave territory and freed hundreds more, wrote this:

If I could have convinced more slaves that they were slaves, I could have freed thousands more.

So, if it was hard to convince slaves in the old American South that they were indeed enslaved, this problem is significant. People can come to see nearly any type of abuse as normal. And once they do, they tend to defend their previous choices.

The way out is to examine the morality of these things, then to accept the conclusions of that examination. Agents of the status quo always resort to intimidation and confusion. The answer to these abuses is moral clarity.

The other problem with a discussion like this isn’t whether or not it is true – it is perfectly clear that the state inserts itself into our relationships by force. What holds people back from facing this obvious conclusion is fear. Not so much fear of punishment, but a fear of facing the truth within ourselves.

We’ve Been Robbed of Intimacy

It’s easy (and correct) to take offense at these intrusions, but, as I say, that’s not really my point. The far more important issue is this:

Our relationships have been stripped of their intimacy and purity.

Neither our marriages nor our families (not to mention business relationships) are really our own. An armed mediator stands above them, carrying a permanent threat of force.

How well could you raise your children with an armed neighbor following you around and enforcing their will?

This is not a wild example, by the way. It differs from reality only in that the enforcer’s presence is in your mind, rather than in physical form. And if the enforcer is notified, he will show up in physical form.

Children are stolen from parents nearly every day, and not just when the parents are monsters. We all know this, and fear of the enforcer is very real to us.

We have not known real, unmediated marriages. Nor have we enjoyed unmediated relationships with our children.

There are dozens of ways of excusing these intrusions; we’ve been surrounded by them all our lives. We all know the long lists of “Well, what if…?”

What follows those lists, however – what is excused by those fears – are permanent intrusions into our most intimate relationships.

We’ve been robbed of pure, unmediated relationships. We have been trained to see this as normal, but it isn’t, and it has both cheapened and degraded all of those relationships. How could it not?

Our most intimate relationships have been prima notced. It’s time to face that fact and to start doing something about it.

Paul Rosenberg
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  • http://7thpillar.wordpress.com/ 7th Pillar

    For decades I’ve refused to invite the state into any of my intimate relationships – marriage without license (I don’t authorize the State’s intrusion), living off the grid for extended periods, etc. But the States in North America hate being ignored and hate having their coercive power mitigated.

    So I’m leaving North America for parts where the State is far less intrusive and will document the 13,500 mile road-trip by video and articles so that folks realize that they have options they may be unaware of.

    The Boot-Strap Expat
    http://thebootstrapexpat.com/

  • JdL

    Very true. The horror stories of children being snatched from loving homes by government thugs and placed in abusive care are heartbreaking. Between spouses, the intrusion is less horrendous, but women are encouraged to drop a dime on their husbands whenever they please, secure in the knowledge that the husband, never the wife, will be arrested. The government is an evil monster.

  • stay-free.org

    “There is little or no evidence that such things ever really happened in the West”

    This at least is not true for Germany. Ius primae noctis has been cruelsome reality in some states (Kurfürstentümer) of “Das Deutsche Reich” until the 18.th century

    kind regards

    Dr. Werner Ende 18. März 2014

    • Paul Rosenberg

      Thanks Werner, I’ll check that out.

  • http://www.PeteSisco.com/ Pete Sisco

    One of the times when this issue is brought into sharp focus is when immigrating. Spouses are kept apart until ridiculous paperwork and financial disclosures are made. “Who owns your wife?” “Oh, Syria owns her? Or does Canada own her?” Depending on who owns her you will have to jump through certain hoops. Because you don’t own your own lives – somebody else does and these things were decided before you were ever born. No different than feudal times.

  • DEREK W. NEWELL

    Hi, will you please view my relationship poem, go to Google, type in my name, Derek Newell, then view my poem, ”EXPRESS IT”, and please, be excellent to one another. Thank You.

  • autonomous

    And what should we then do? Go on a rampage against policemen? Or judges? Or politicians? Jesus taught that we should not resist evil with evil. That if we try to live by the sword, we will die by the sword. That if someone takes our coat, we should give him our shirt as well. Who can do such a thing? If the prema has taken our wife’s virginity, should we offer him our daughter’s? Is it really the best thing that we can possibly do do lay down our own life for another? How is that different from the act of a suicide bomber?

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